if the system youve put in place to normalize asking for/giving pronouns doesn't leave a quiet, subtle option for people to abstain, you have made the space u r curating absolutely miserable for questioning and closeted trans ppl
"okay but there's a difference between the way cis guys--" You Have Absolutely No Idea Who Is Trans Or How They Will Behave. You Do Not Get To Decide What Closeted Trans People Say About Themselves To Stay Safe
like obviously if someone makes a derisive/transphobic comment everyone can and should tell them to get fucked but outside of that stop pretending you can (or should even be trying to???) identify every trans person on sight lmao
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