cupped ears @myconidiosyncrasy@efdn.club

also the concept that expressing anger is bad is like. hella tone policy lmao. expressing anger (both sticking up for yourself, and working through anger in healthy ways when your anger was unjustified) is good actually. maybe you should take a hard look at the ways (and reasons) you express/ed anger and whether your own personal flaws and mistakes have colored your opinions of others

the "testosterone makes you angry" one i particularly hate because the idea that Experiencing An Emotion is the bad thing, not your response to it, is mega fucked up. like lots of transmascs talk about how an advantage of "being quicker to anger" is that they feel more emotionally able to stand up for themselves, which is great! it's a really good introspection into how different emotions and strengths of those emotions can have positive and negative effects. but at the end of the day "this emotion causes this thing" kind of boils down to "this behavior is justified because it was a reaction to this emotion". "testosterone makes you bad because it makes you aggro" is just another version of "boys will be boys" or "women do x because they're emotional". at it's very, very best it's patronizing and inaccurate. at it's worst it it's justification for being shitty or trying to control how others behave

"i personally hate this for me" is a great thing to know and share !! but universal denouncements of testosterone and its effects kind of sound..... hmmmmm.... almost exactly like continued enforcements of beauty and respectability standards

ah yes, testosterone evil, because as we all know;
-experiencing anger
-high libidos
-not crying
-baldness
-body hair
-uhhh [checks notes] increased risk for heart disease i guess ??
-sweating more???

are not only inherently gross and bad, but also universal effects of testosterone

@rachel [ominously] welcome

FINALLY i can harrass alice's wife directly instead of having to harrass her by proxy through alice